Unless you’re winning, most of life will seem hideously unfair to you.
The truth is, life is just playing by different rules.
We don’t live in a world where everyone has to kill each other to prosper.
“I’m better than this.” These idle impulses may comfort us at night, but they’re not how the world sees us.
What exactly can you and have you done for the world?
The same rule applies to all talents, even unsavoury ones: get naked for one person and you might just make them smile, get naked for fifty million people and you might just be Kim Kardashian.
If you don’t accept this, then the judgement of the world will seem very unfair indeed.
Rule #3. Our idea of fairness is self interest.
It’s why we have referees in sports games and judges in courtrooms: we have an innate sense of right and wrong, and we expect the world to comply.
The problem isn’t that life is unfair; it’s your broken idea of fairness.
Our idea of fairness isn’t actually obtainable.
Can you imagine how insane life would be if it actually was ‘fair’ to everyone? No-one could fancy anyone who wasn’t the love of their life, for fear of breaking a heart.
Most of us get so hung up on how we think the world should work that we can’t see how it does.
Also published on Medium.